In my life, both personal and professional, when I have been knocked down, there have been some great Giants that came along and picked me up from my feet to help me get back on track. They observed my situation that reminded them of circumstances they had previously been in. By sharing their own stories, they tried to help, not by telling me what to do, but instead by getting me to see things through a different set of lenses – the lenses of experience. The value of this support has been immeasurable.
Most mentors are passionate about helping others, especially when they see people suffering and when they believe that they can do something that can help to relieve it. In these situations, a mentor who shares their journey with a person demonstrates empathy and compassion, which reminds them that they are not alone. This simple act can change a person’s life forever.
Here are 4 characteristics of a great Giant:
Be a great communicator.
Cultivate a mastery of language and expression. You have the ability to be an effective communicator and to use it in a way that can entertain, educate, and inspire people every day.
Use your words to encourage.
At one time in my life, criticizing others and launching attacks on my opponents was the only way I could stay in control of situations, but invariably, the consequences were negative. No doubt this approach left others feeling unhappy, but it also did the same to me, causing an inner turmoil that was difficult to resolve. Giants need to be highly attuned to the feeling of others, but also to themselves so they can measure their responses by remaining calm in stressful situations.
Being a Giant means tapping into the “better angels of our nature”, to use our strengths in service for others – a purpose that is much higher than ourselves and whatever personal gain we may think we will achieve. This means being able to listen to others and what they think and feel about us.
Discipline to build character.
To actually be a true Giant or Mentor requires actively engaging in a process of self-reflection and a willingness to sculpt one’s character into one that focuses outside of itself. It first means taking an honest look at yourself and being able to acknowledge both your strengths and the areas that need work. By acknowledging your strengths, you can use these to help others who could benefit from them. Helping others is one of the most powerful ways to shape your character and to finding your true purposes in life.
One of the objectives of The MENTOR+ project is to bring Giants – aka mentors – together with individuals or organizations that are in need of exactly this type of guidance. We are currently building an online social community platform that will make that much easier.
Please join me in helping build a life story for yourself and others. I am excited and passionate about the Mentor+ community and what it will have to offer. Sign-up and we will keep you posted on further developments.
BE A GIANT!
Top 5 blog posts you should be reading:
Why Entrepreneurs Should Strive To Be Micromanagers
There’s nothing worse for your employees than scrambling to finish a particularly arduous task whilst two or three managers are breathing down their neck.
Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant on Women Doing ‘Office Housework.’
LATE one Friday afternoon at a leading consulting firm, a last-minute request came in from a client. A female manager was the first to volunteer her time. She had already spent the entire day meeting with junior colleagues who were seeking career advice, even though they weren’t on her team. Earlier in the week, she had trained several new hires, helped a colleague improve a presentation and agreed to plan the office holiday party. When it came time for her review for partner, her clear track record as a team player combined with her excellent performance should have made her a shoo-in. Instead, her promotion was delayed for six months, and then a year. Read this story.
The Surprising Success We Find in Failure by Michael Hyatt
We often look at successful people, hearing their stories of failure, and think they succeeded in spite of the fact that they failed. But that’s not true.
Successful people and organizations don’t succeed despite failure. They succeed because of it. Read this story.
Ballerina Turned Entrepreneur, Caitlin Ritt On Career Pivots, And Redefining Yourself
Caitlin Ritt had dreams of becoming a ballerina, but a childhood injury and subsequent life revelation took her on a very different course. Today, Ritt is the founder of The Lotus Method (TLM), a San Francisco-based fitness studio focused on fitness methods designed specifically for future, expecting, and new mothers. Read this story.
5 Steps to Stop Spinning Your Wheels and Start Following Your Passion
Do you feel like you’re just spinning your wheels at your current job? Have you been waiting for the chance to cut loose and start your own business or go freelance? You’re certainly not alone. There are hundreds of people who decided to take a step forward and turn their dream into reality. However, leaving the comfort of your current routine can seem like a terrifying, or even impossible future. If you’re worried about making a major lifestyle or career transition, it can help to break it up into several steps and approach it incrementally. Here are five steps you can take to move toward a more self-fulfilling life. Read this story.
Have yourself an awesome week. Make it the best ever!
“A star wants to see himself rise to the top. A leader wants to see those around him rise to the top.” – Simon Sinek